In this episode we've gathered 5 essential strategies from our therapy practices to help you navigate and minimise conflicts in your relationships.

• Listen Without Fracking: Avoid fixing, rescuing, advice-giving, complaining, or killing the discussion. This ensures you're truly present with your partner's feelings without imposing your own solutions or dismissing their experiences.
• Reflective Summarising: Enhance understanding by mirroring back what your partner says. This shows you are listening and processing their feelings effectively, fostering a deeper emotional connection.
• Expressing Your Needs Clearly: Being self-aware and communicative about your own needs helps prevent misunderstandings and reduces conflict.
• The HALT Technique: Before discussions escalate, pause and assess if you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Addressing these basic needs can prevent many unnecessary arguments.
• Focus on the Real Issues: Look beyond the surface arguments to understand the underlying concerns. This approach helps in addressing the root causes of conflict rather than just the symptoms.

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Tune in to our next episode, "The Right Way to Say Sorry: A Guide for Couples," where we uncover the mistakes you are making and give you the tools to apologise so your partner hears and believes you.

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Welcome to the latest insightful episode of Growth, The Relationship Recovery Toolkit!

Let’s get into the conversation of codependency. Whether it's with family, friends, or partners, understanding and managing codependency can significantly transform your relationships.

• Dive into understanding what codependency really is and its origins (02:46).
• Uncover the key characteristics of codependency and how it affects our ability to maintain healthy, mutually satisfying relationships (06:15).
• Explore the deep-seated impacts of codependency on relationships, including the imbalance in meeting needs and the potential for enabling detrimental behaviors (07:30).
• Discuss strategies to observe your behaviours and implement changes that foster independence and self-awareness (14:49).
• Learn about "The Power of the Pause" — a simple yet effective tool to help gain clarity and focus on personal needs over pleasing others (18:55).

We will give you with practical tools to reclaim your autonomy and enhance your relationship dynamics.

It demystifies the complex nature of codependency with relatable examples and expert insights. Offers strategies to help you become more self-aware and independent. Empowers you to redefine and improve the balance in your relationships.

Are you often putting others' needs before your own? Take our Are You a People Pleaser Quiz? to find out click here:

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This program is designed to significantly improve communication, enhance intimacy, and resolve unresolved blocks in your relationships, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

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Next week, we'll be tackling how to turn everyday arguments into constructive conversations — essential listening for anyone looking to enhance understanding and reduce conflicts in relationships.

Thank you for joining us this week on Growth. We hope this episode brings you new insights and tools that you can apply immediately to start transforming your relationships.

See you next Tuesday for more powerful relationship tools!

We look forward to having you with us again next week, and as always, we're excited to help you discover more ways to grow and thrive.

Welcome back to Growth: The Relationship Recovery Toolkit. Join Laura and Matt in looking at the issue of people pleasing, discussing its origins, impact, and strategies for change.

Whether you're a self-confessed people pleaser or just looking to improve your assertiveness in relationships, this episode has something for you.

• Understand what drives people-pleasing behaviours and their effects on personal and professional relationships.
• Discover practical quick wins and long-term strategies to curb people pleasing and promote self-assertion.
• Learn how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to improve self-esteem and relationship dynamics.

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Designed by experienced therapists, the Back on Track programme offers couples enhanced communication techniques, deeper intimacy, and solutions to unresolved blocks in their relationship. Unlock the secrets to a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

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This episode not only sheds light on why we people please but also equips you with the tools to assert your own needs effectively. It's packed with actionable advice, backed by professional insights from our therapy practices, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their interpersonal relationships and boost their self-worth.

Don't forget to follow the podcast for weekly relationship tools and look out for our next episode out next Toolkit Tuesday on codependency.

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Chapters: 00:00 - Intro & Origins of People Pleasing

03:34 - Common Traits of People Pleasers

08:38 - Impact of People Pleasing

10:08 - Effects on Relationships

14:37 - Back on Track Programme

17:09 - Quick Wins to Stop People Pleasing

23:41 - Long Term Strategies for Overcoming People Pleasing

26:31 - Reflective Tools for Self-Discovery

28:39 - Building Self-Esteem

35:09 - Setting Boundaries

37:35 - It’s Not Mean to Say No

38:26 - Recap and Thank You

Thank you for tuning in, and we hope you find the courage to start setting boundaries and prioritising your needs as you journey towards recovery from people pleasing!