In this episode we've gathered 5 essential strategies from our therapy practices to help you navigate and minimise conflicts in your relationships.

• Listen Without Fracking: Avoid fixing, rescuing, advice-giving, complaining, or killing the discussion. This ensures you're truly present with your partner's feelings without imposing your own solutions or dismissing their experiences.
• Reflective Summarising: Enhance understanding by mirroring back what your partner says. This shows you are listening and processing their feelings effectively, fostering a deeper emotional connection.
• Expressing Your Needs Clearly: Being self-aware and communicative about your own needs helps prevent misunderstandings and reduces conflict.
• The HALT Technique: Before discussions escalate, pause and assess if you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Addressing these basic needs can prevent many unnecessary arguments.
• Focus on the Real Issues: Look beyond the surface arguments to understand the underlying concerns. This approach helps in addressing the root causes of conflict rather than just the symptoms.

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Tune in to our next episode, "The Right Way to Say Sorry: A Guide for Couples," where we uncover the mistakes you are making and give you the tools to apologise so your partner hears and believes you.

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Welcome to the latest insightful episode of Growth, The Relationship Recovery Toolkit!

Let’s get into the conversation of codependency. Whether it's with family, friends, or partners, understanding and managing codependency can significantly transform your relationships.

• Dive into understanding what codependency really is and its origins (02:46).
• Uncover the key characteristics of codependency and how it affects our ability to maintain healthy, mutually satisfying relationships (06:15).
• Explore the deep-seated impacts of codependency on relationships, including the imbalance in meeting needs and the potential for enabling detrimental behaviors (07:30).
• Discuss strategies to observe your behaviours and implement changes that foster independence and self-awareness (14:49).
• Learn about "The Power of the Pause" — a simple yet effective tool to help gain clarity and focus on personal needs over pleasing others (18:55).

We will give you with practical tools to reclaim your autonomy and enhance your relationship dynamics.

It demystifies the complex nature of codependency with relatable examples and expert insights. Offers strategies to help you become more self-aware and independent. Empowers you to redefine and improve the balance in your relationships.

Are you often putting others' needs before your own? Take our Are You a People Pleaser Quiz? to find out click here:

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Discover how to prioritise your needs with our Guide on Identifying Your Own Needs — get the guide by clicking here: https://www.growthllt.com/needs

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This program is designed to significantly improve communication, enhance intimacy, and resolve unresolved blocks in your relationships, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

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Next week, we'll be tackling how to turn everyday arguments into constructive conversations — essential listening for anyone looking to enhance understanding and reduce conflicts in relationships.

Thank you for joining us this week on Growth. We hope this episode brings you new insights and tools that you can apply immediately to start transforming your relationships.

See you next Tuesday for more powerful relationship tools!

We look forward to having you with us again next week, and as always, we're excited to help you discover more ways to grow and thrive.

Welcome back to Growth: The Relationship Recovery Toolkit. Join Laura and Matt in looking at the issue of people pleasing, discussing its origins, impact, and strategies for change.

Whether you're a self-confessed people pleaser or just looking to improve your assertiveness in relationships, this episode has something for you.

• Understand what drives people-pleasing behaviours and their effects on personal and professional relationships.
• Discover practical quick wins and long-term strategies to curb people pleasing and promote self-assertion.
• Learn how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to improve self-esteem and relationship dynamics.

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Designed by experienced therapists, the Back on Track programme offers couples enhanced communication techniques, deeper intimacy, and solutions to unresolved blocks in their relationship. Unlock the secrets to a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

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This episode not only sheds light on why we people please but also equips you with the tools to assert your own needs effectively. It's packed with actionable advice, backed by professional insights from our therapy practices, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their interpersonal relationships and boost their self-worth.

Don't forget to follow the podcast for weekly relationship tools and look out for our next episode out next Toolkit Tuesday on codependency.

Also, join our vibrant Facebook community. Search for: Growth Life Learning Toolkit, to continue the conversation and connect with others working through similar challenges.

Chapters: 00:00 - Intro & Origins of People Pleasing

03:34 - Common Traits of People Pleasers

08:38 - Impact of People Pleasing

10:08 - Effects on Relationships

14:37 - Back on Track Programme

17:09 - Quick Wins to Stop People Pleasing

23:41 - Long Term Strategies for Overcoming People Pleasing

26:31 - Reflective Tools for Self-Discovery

28:39 - Building Self-Esteem

35:09 - Setting Boundaries

37:35 - It’s Not Mean to Say No

38:26 - Recap and Thank You

Thank you for tuning in, and we hope you find the courage to start setting boundaries and prioritising your needs as you journey towards recovery from people pleasing!

Welcome back to the Relationship Recovery Toolkit where we provide you with the tools and strategies for enhancing your relationship. Today, Matt and Laura explore Transactional Analysis and 'I statements' in couples' communication.

If you want to improve your communication and your emotional availability, this episode is for you.

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Key Takeaways:

• Discover the significance of 'I statements' in creating a healthy dialogue in your relationship.
• Learn how to effectively use 'I statements' to express feelings and needs without triggering defensiveness.
• Understand the impact of ego states (Parent, Adult, Child) on your communication patterns and relationship dynamics.
• Strategies to stay in the 'Adult' ego state (where we want to be) for more rational, constructive conversations.

Episode Highlights:

• Introduction to the 'Back on Track' programme and its benefits for couples.
• An in-depth look at the role of 'I statements' in improving communication.
• The critical vs. nurturing parent, and how these roles affect your interactions.
• The importance of self-awareness in recognising and shifting ego states.
• Real-life examples of how ego states play out in daily interactions and their consequences on relationships.

Chapters:

Introduction to Effective Communication Tools

Overview of the 'Back on Track' Programme

Deep Dive into 'I Statements'

Exploring Ego States: Parent, Adult, Child

Practical Examples and Solutions

Conclusion and Next Steps

Up Next:

Don't miss out on our next episode on people-pleasing and its impact on relationships.

Follow our podcast to stay updated on invaluable insights that can transform your relationship journey. For a deeper understanding and to get the most out of your relationship, we encourage you to explore the following resources:

• Back on Track Programme: A comprehensive, therapist-designed programme for couples. Dive into therapy tools at your own pace to revitalise your relationship. Explore the programme here: Click Here
• Blog on Parent, Adult, Child Ego States: Gain a deeper insight into the dynamics of ego states and their influence on your communication patterns. Read the blog here: Click Here

Thank you for tuning in. See you next Toolkit Tuesday.

Do you have parents who turn up without warning, in-laws who have a lot to say about how you are bringing up 'their grandchildren', or family members who are so set in their ways that you feel it’s a challenge to establish your own traditions?

If the answer to any of that was a yes or if you just want to put some boundaries in place in any aspect of your life then this often-requested episode is for you.

We will look at setting boundaries within relationships, especially concerning in-laws, parents, and others who may offer well-meaning but unsolicited advice.

In this episode, we explore the importance of communication and boundaries to protect your relationship from external pressures.

Plus, don't miss our exclusive discount on the Back on Track program for listeners!

The Back on Track Toolkit is a comprehensive guide, designed by couples therapists, to help you and your partner reconnect and strengthen your relationship.

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Exclusive Discount: Use promo code “PODCAST20" for an exclusive 20% discount.

In This Episode:

• The significance of setting boundaries around your relationship.
• How to communicate effectively with your partner to establish these boundaries.
• Practical advice on dealing with common boundary challenges, such as in-law visits and family expectations.
• An introduction to the Back on Track program, designed to enhance connection and communication between partners.
• Listener-exclusive offers and resources to further support your relationship journey.

Episode Highlights:

• Understanding Boundaries: Why they're critical in relationships and how they serve as an "invisible wall" against external influences.
• Communication is Key: Strategies for open and honest dialogue with your partner, including the use of "I" statements and establishing a united front.
• Navigating Family Dynamics: Tips for handling pressure from in-laws and parents, including real-life scenarios and how to approach them as a team.
• Exclusive Practical Task: A three step strategy to setting and maintaining boundaries, with a focus on preparing for and navigating difficult conversations.

Free Tools:

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Next Episode Teaser:

Don't miss our next episode on the best couples communication techniques, where we'll dive into the power of "I" statements and how to feel heard in your relationship.

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Until next time, happy communicating!

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👫 In This Episode:

• We explore the critical steps to restore intimacy after conflict, ensuring both emotional and physical connection.
• Learn the significance of open communication, shared experiences, non-sexual touch, and the art of forgiveness and letting go.
• Challenge yourselves with our Six-Second Snog and see how a simple kiss can transform your relationship dynamics.
• Plus, our Intimacy Quiz will guide you to deeper discoveries about each other's desires and how to fulfil them.

For more free relationship tools and resources, don't hesitate to visit www.growthllt.com.

Dive into a wealth of knowledge that'll empower both of you to cultivate a thriving relationship.

Episode Highlights:

09:11 - It all starts with communication

18:15 - Create new memories

22:48 - Introducing Physical Touch

31:17 - Forgiveness

36:37 - Introducing the Intimacy Quiz

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Until Next Time, Keep Growing Together!

Join Matt from the Relationship Recovery Toolkit in a one off solo episode which will give you the 9 signs that your relationship could benefit from a bit support.

When we talk about support, we're really referring to giving your relationship and love life that much-needed nudge—something we all require every now and again to keep things moving in the right direction.

Get the free guide on what to do when your partner doesn’t see there’s a problem by clicking here: https://www.growthllt.com/Get-them-involved?fbclid=IwAR0JFKwuFU4vUEL1XY03UIgiWaFLbofgEuR9jReQDP1hiuswPMM2Zj9TiDY_aem_AUGpZ5Cx8-hxVGz20v2Q8TZzKSVyfKqjfDdi-g-0kL7h6Fxb7UMn0saH6rgTtnIE3nc

Loads of letters and numbers there but an excellent tool for your relationship toolkit. We will work on making our links prettier in the future.

Episode Highlights:

• Spotting Key Signs: Uncover nine critical indicators that suggest your relationship could use some support, from ongoing disputes to feeling like mere housemates.
• Positive Outlook on Seeking Help: We advocate viewing the search for help as a positive step, an opportunity to deepen and strengthen your bond.
• Moving Through Difficulties: We reassure that noticing these signs isn’t a sign of failure but rather a chance for positive change and enhancement in your relationship.
• Guidance on Seeking Support: Listeners are directed on how and where to find support, including a special spotlight on our Back On Track programme, designed specifically for couples facing such challenges. For more details on this programme and to access a wealth of free relationship tools and resources, click: www.growthllt.com
• Taking Proactive Steps: This episode encourages listeners to actively seek improvement through self-help, structured programmes like Back On Track, and couples counselling, highlighting these as steps towards a more fulfilling relationship.

Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss out on our weekly episodes every Tuesday, where we bring you the latest and most effective relationship strategies used by couples therapists.

In today’s episode, join therapists Matt and Laura as they give you some of the best relationship tools to help you get the most out of your love life.

Today we are talking about The Argument Cycle. A loop that almost all couples get stuck on when having arguments or disagreements.

Nobody likes to argue with their partner so we will give you some therapist approved tips on how to resolve your arguments better and we run you through one of the most powerful tools for your relationship toolkit that could resolve all of your disagreements without a single flash of anger.

GET YOUR FREE GUIDE HERE: https://www.growthllt.com/opt-in-fd1992b4-e627-46fa-91bc-63872209f7fa

For more tools and strategies to fortify your relationship, especially when trust has been compromised, visit our website and check out our comprehensive 'Back on Track' course at www.growthLLT.com.

Whether you're dealing with arguments, a loss of spark, or trust issues, we're here to support your journey towards a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.

Episode Highlights:

• The Argument Cycle

How to Argue Better:

• Stay on Topic
• Be Aware of Your Own Feelings
• Use I Statements
• No Fixing

Our Relationship Tool:

• How to have difficult discussions without arguing.

We are still new and shiny so if you have any feedback for us, please find us on instagram @GrowthLLT and let us know your thoughts on our show.