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  • She Comes First

  • The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
  • By: Ian Kerner
  • Narrated by: Ian Kerner
  • Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (396 ratings)

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She Comes First

By: Ian Kerner
Narrated by: Ian Kerner
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Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: Explicit language. Must be 18 years of age to purchase.

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
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"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" ( Playgirl)

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you can get lost in the detail

i know the author advices against going straight to the techniques section but i say go for it, ni big harm done. extremely detailed, at times you feel you will never be able to remember all these when you are down there. still you can enrich your knowledge or learn how to, if you are totally new to this.

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first part is super amazing

much preferred the first half. some great information and I learnt a lot. the second half on how to pleasure a woman is a bit hit and miss. it's too technical and probably wouldnt all work for me, but still a good guideline for those who are in the dark.

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Too much data and statistics in the first 2 hours

Is there anything you would change about this book?

The first 2 hours, (part 1) contained far to many statistics and lacked qualitative information. It was repetitive, constantly trying to assure an older generation that going down on a woman is necessary and socially acceptable! Repetitively defining what will come and what came before, the words "core play" are used far too often.

How could the performance have been better?

The narrators voice is rather shrill and disjointed, I honestly can't believe that he choose this profession. It was off putting from begin to end.

Any additional comments?

I don't know if it would read well as a book but as audiobook it contains far too much useless information and obscure referencing, as if written by a student trying to prove how much research they did to there teacher.

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great remainder to take your time....

Thank you buddy! this book helped me to understand women's mechanism. ...and remained me to take my time !!!! I'm once again I'm one of the happiest man on earth.... she said "please stop I can't any more"
will recommend this book to any one!!

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should be titled how to perform Cunnilingus

mainly focussed on how to perform cunnilingus (better) which is great if that's what you're looking to do but not so great if youre looking to become a better lover overall.

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it's not what you think!

Ok, so maybe it is, a little. a great informative listen that does not cross and boundaries that you wouldn't expect. read in an enthusiastic manor that keeps you coming back for more.

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Sit down, listen up and learn the secret.

To say this book does what it says on the tin is an understatement. Without trying to sound like some sort of Casanova this foolproof step by step model has changed my sex life completely, she comes first, second, third, fourth, tenth. There’s not one woman it doesn’t work on, some take longer than others but it always works so be patient and communicate just like the book says. I’ve recommended this to others and they can’t believe the results and differences aswell, don’t think twice just go for it and thank me later.

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An absolute must for both men and women

Follow the techniques lad out in this book and you will go from novice to pro. You will never have to worry again that your partners has been satisfied leaving them coming back for more again and again and again.

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Terrible narration

I was excited when I first downloaded this book, thinking 'wow. A book by a man, read by a man, about women's sexual pleasure'. But it's read like a car manual, in a droning monotone thst makes it sound as exciting as watching the proverbial paint dry. The narrator really does the book and the writer a disservice here. I couldn't be bothered to finish listening.

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It's Good, but could be Better!

This audiobook opens my mind to the surrounds of what I'm doing, but not much more. Dashes of humor keep it interesting, and the seriousness of his voice drags me along. For a four hour listen it's taken me nearly three months to complete. For what it is, it isn't much, but you should get this if you're like me and you want to know everything anyone has ever said about this subject.

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