• Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others

  • By: Anne Bland
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Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others

By: Anne Bland
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  • Are you curious about Tantra? Maybe you have tried it a few times but are not sure how to make it a conscious practice to bring more happiness, pleasure, and peace into your life. Or maybe you've heard some Tantric stories about how Sting can last for hours - and wonder if you could too. Or you might feel that your sex and love life could and should be better, or even Sacred...
    This open, honest, explicit, heartfelt, and fun podcast by Anne Bland is for you if you are ready to explore your sensuality, sexuality, and spirituality through Tantra and Tantric Sex. Ancient Tantra teaches that there is a direct link between your sexual energy and your creativity and spirituality. So, are you willing to unleash your full potential through self-awareness, self-mastery, and self-expression and live the life you truly want?
    If yes, then join Tantric Sex and Relationship Coach, public speaker, and podcaster Anne Bland, the founder of “Selfishly Happy Revolution,” as she openly and whole-heartedly discusses her own Tantric Journey, shares real-life Tantric stories, and invites others to join her on the podcast. This could include you too! The "Asking for a Friend" episode is an opportunity to get free Tantric Sex or Relationship Coaching from Anne Bland - or you could truly 'ask for a friend.' You can also participate in the show by sending a voice message.
    This podcast is part of Anne Bland's Selfishly Happy Revolution, the next sexual revolution that doesn't start from barricades or burning your bras, but from within. Putting that figurative oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others gives you more energy, love, and creativity to share with others. And that oxygen mask is ‘Pleasure’! Pleasure is your birthright, and you deserve and are worthy of feeling good about yourself and your life so that you have the energy to show up in the world the way you want. And most of all, to create the life you want!
    Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about creating a movement, a community that celebrates pleasure and is pleasure-positive, demystifying sex and sexuality, and creating happy relationships not just with your partner but also with yourself, your communities, and the world at large. As Anne Bland says: “Happy and pleasure-positive people just don’t start wars.”
    "Tantra doesn't judge or exclude anything but it transforms everything" (Osho). Tantra is like inner technology that can be harnessed for your benefit be it healing, personal or spiritual growth, or amazingly juicy, delicious, and succulent life. Tantra is like having pleasure and self-love on tap!
    Finally, if you want to learn some Tantric Tips and Pleasurable Treats called Seven Holistic Sex Tools, this show is definitely for you. Anne shares how you can use these ancient Tantric Tools - Intentions, Presence, Focus, Breath, Movement, Sound, and Energy – for self-healing and self-pleasure but also with your partner or lover. They will help you to reclaim your own pleasure to become authentically your True Self and create a World that you want to live in and leave behind for future generations.
    Selfishly Happy Tantric Revolution is ALL ABOUT YOU! If you don't feel good about yourself, don't love yourself, don't have any energy, and are at risk of burning out - how can you be there for others? How could you be the leader in the world that you want to be? Or be the world co-creator that you truly are?
    Tantra teaches that all is one. It means that once you start healing, growing and becoming the person you truly are, the world around you changes too: what is inside you is also outside you. Pleasure and sexual energy are not well understood in the West and often associated with something shady, dirty, sinful or secretive. Tantra celebrates sex and sexual energy being normal and natural parts of you and the very energy for creation and spiritual enlightenment. It is where humanity meets spirituality. By mastering Tantric tools you can use your body-mind, your "inner technology," to get in touch with your Higher Self, Universe, God/Goddess, Cosmos - or whatever you call the Essence that is bigger than you but still part of you. It's like EVOKING something latent. At the same time, you'll be raising the consciousness of the whole of humanity on Earth which is the key to the survival and thriving of human beings as a race. So by changing yourself, you'll change the world for the better! Enjoy the Tantric journey! What is a better and more fun way to grow and develop yourself than sex and sexual energy? So let's Evoke Tantra and let's Evoke YOU.
    © 2025 Anne Bland All Rights Reserved.
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Episodes
  • 54: Let Go and Love - Holiday Intimacy with Susan Bratton

    54: Let Go and Love - Holiday Intimacy with Susan Bratton
    Dec 28 2024

    In this episode of 'Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others', host Anne Bland welcomes intimacy expert Susan Bratton to discuss the importance of nurturing intimacy and connection during the holiday season. They explore how societal expectations can create stress and pressure, and how individuals can reclaim their joy and pleasure. Susan shares practical tips for lovers to enhance their relationship, emphasising the significance of communication and understanding personal desires. The conversation also touches on techniques for deepening intimacy, personal reflections on pleasure, and thoughts on New Year's resolutions.


    Highlights

    • The holiday season is a time to design your own joy and connection.
    • It's essential to stop doing things that don't resonate with you during the holidays.
    • Food can be a powerful expression of love and connection.
    • Understanding your parasympathetic profile can help manage stress.
    • Holding and being held can enhance intimacy and connection.
    • Communication is key to understanding desires in relationships.
    • Women often need a slower approach to intimacy compared to men.
    • Personal pleasure should be prioritised for a fulfilling life.
    • Recognising societal pressures can help reclaim personal joy.
    • New Year's resolutions can be a time for introspection and personal growth.


    Chapters

    00:00 Navigating Holiday Pressures: Tips for Couples

    12:04 Understanding Stress Responses: The Role of Intimacy

    18:27 The Soulmate Embrace: A Tantric Technique

    27:20 New Year, New Intentions: Embracing Change

    Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.

    Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching

    Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools."

    Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast

    Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com

    Send a voice message.

    Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality
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    34 mins
  • 53: From Addiction to Connection: Healing Porn Addiction with Tantra

    53: From Addiction to Connection: Healing Porn Addiction with Tantra
    Dec 15 2024

    In this deeply compassionate and transformative episode, Anne Bland tackles a listener-requested topic: porn addiction and how it impacts our relationships, intimacy, and sense of self. While pornography is widely consumed, compulsive use can lead to disconnection, shame, and challenges in real-life relationships. But there is hope! Tantra offers a powerful, mindful, and healing path to break free from addiction and rediscover connection, presence, and pleasure.


    Highlights

    • Understanding porn addiction

    Anne explores the rise of porn addiction, sharing eye-opening statistics and its emotional and neurological impact on individuals and relationships.

    • The root of addiction

    Discover what often lies beneath compulsive behaviors: emotional disconnection, stress, and avoidance of vulnerability - and how awareness is the first step to healing.

    • How Tantra helps

    Learn how Tantric principles can support you in:

    • Reconnecting with your body through breathwork and mindfulness.

    • Rebalancing energy with conscious self-pleasure practices.

    • Healing emotional patterns and learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings.

    • Rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships through presence, mindful touch, and shared practices.

    • A personal story

    Anne shares a powerful client transformation where Tantric tools replaced shame and performance pressure with connection and authentic pleasure.

    • Special highlight

    Anne invites listeners to listen to the next episode which is her insightful conversation with intimacy expert Susan Bratton, who offers practical tools for overcoming intimacy blocks and rekindling passion.


    Practical tools you’ll learn in this episode

    1. How to start a mindful, Tantric self-pleasure practice to re-sensitise your body.

    2. Using breathwork to regulate the nervous system and calm overstimulation.

    3. Creating emotional safety and trust in relationships.

    4. Exploring intimacy as a journey—not a performance.


    If this episode resonates with you or someone you care about, please share it. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to walk this path alone. Leave a review on your favorite podcast app, share your thoughts, and let Anne know what topics you’d like to hear next.


    Episode disclaimer

    This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice. If you are struggling with addiction, consider seeking guidance from a qualified therapist or coach.


    Closing thought

    Healing from porn addiction isn’t about shame or blame. It’s about rediscovering connection, presence, and love for yourself and your partner. Tantra offers a profound path to break free and embrace intimacy with an open heart.


    You are not broken. Healing begins with presence, patience, and compassion.

    Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.

    Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching

    Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools."

    Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast

    Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com

    Send a voice message.

    Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality
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    26 mins
  • 51: The 4B Movement and Selfishly Happy Revolution: Redefining Autonomy and Pleasure

    51: The 4B Movement and Selfishly Happy Revolution: Redefining Autonomy and Pleasure
    Nov 8 2024
    In this episode, Anne Bland discusses the 4B movement from South Korea that focuses on autonomy, self-respect, and self-empowerment. The 4B movement stands for four ‘no’s: no marriage, no childbirth, no dating, and no sexual relationships with men until women have the same rights and opportunities as men. But this isn’t just about saying ‘no’; it’s about saying ‘yes’ to living life on one’s own terms, creating space for true happiness, liberation, and fulfilment. After the presidential elections, 4B (and 5B, 6B and 7B) movement has gained momentum in the USA where women's sexual health rights are in jeopardy. Anne explores how the 4B movement’s message of radical autonomy aligns with Selfishly Happy Revolution and how reclaiming pleasure can become a powerful, positive force.Anne explains what it means to embrace autonomy and pleasure in a world that often prioritises economic productivity and performance over self-care and conformity over individuality. Drawing on concepts from Tantra and therapeutic self-empowerment, this episode speaks to anyone ready to embrace a life that aligns with their deepest values, regardless of gender.What’s Covered in This Episode?Understanding the 4B Movement: Its origins, principles, and what it represents for self-empowerment.Moving Beyond the Dominance Model: How societal "dominance model" coined by Dr Riane Eisler impacts personal autonomy and the relevance of challenging it today.Selfishly Happy Revolution: Why autonomy and pleasure are empowering choices that can redefine well-being.Concrete Steps to Embrace Autonomy: Practical ways to bring autonomy and pleasure into everyday life, including:• Rethinking consumer habits and addressing the pink tax• Supporting women-owned businesses• Reclaiming pleasure and self-connection as paths to well-being5. Three Transformative Practices: Grounding Breath, Heart-Centred Visualisation, and Emotion-Naming Body Scan to help listeners reconnect with themselves and process emotions in a healthy, empowered way.Key Takeaways• The 4B movement isn’t about rejecting relationships but about prioritising self-respect, well-being, and authentic connection for a period of time.• Embracing autonomy and pleasure allows each person to break free from societal expectations that don’t align with their true values.• Simple practices can help reconnect with oneself, redefine relationships, and find greater happiness and fulfillment.Call to ActionAnne encourages listeners to reflect on where they might be saying ‘yes’ out of obligation rather than joy. Could you start choosing what brings happiness and peace instead? This episode guides listeners in taking concrete steps toward a life that’s Selfishly Happy: avoid the "pink tax", support women- and ethnic minority-owned businesses, and celebrate pleasure as a path to well-being.Connect with AnneIf you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others for more episodes on empowerment, self-discovery, and pleasure, and consider giving it 5 stars and a review. Follow Anne Bland on Instagram @SelfishlyHappyWithAnneBland for more insights and practices to live a life that’s Selfishly Happy.Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coachingDownload a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools."Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcastEmail: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.comSend a voice message.Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality
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    20 mins

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