In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Johnny, a man seeking clarity in his journey to attract his future partner. Johnny shares how he’s moved through deep personal growth and breathwork practices to reach a place of self-love, but finds himself wrestling with the balance between desire and detachment.

Christine guides Johnny to embrace the concept of longing without suffering, encouraging him to move from a place of pushing and striving to one of trust and being. Together, they explore how embodying trust and gratitude can shift his energy and align him with the relationship he desires. This episode offers profound insights into how we can call in our dreams—whether they be relationships, careers, or other goals—by shifting our approach from doing to being.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you clear about what you want in a relationship or other area of your life, but it just isn’t showing up?
• Have you tried both surrendering and taking action without finding the right balance?
• Do you feel stuck between desiring something deeply and trusting it will happen?
• Are you embodying trust and gratitude, or are you in a state of striving and scarcity?

Key Insights and A-Ha’s:

• Johnny’s journey highlights how self-worth and personal growth can lead to profound realizations about what we truly want.
• Christine shares how desires can stem from a spiritual knowing of what’s meant for us, and how embodying trust shifts the energy we bring to our goals.
• The importance of letting go of old patterns of striving and embracing a state-of-being is emphasized as a powerful practice for attracting what we want.
• This episode explores practical steps to balance longing and detachment, including visualization exercises and daily embodiment practices.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge the push-pull dynamic in your desires and find a way to embody gratitude and trust.
• Use embodiment practices, such as visualization and intentional conversations, to align with the energy of your desires.
• Focus on living authentically and fully in the present moment rather than fixating on the outcome.
• Reframe moments of waiting as opportunities for growth and preparation rather than obstacles.

Sponsor:

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
• Sponsor: AquaTru’s Website – click here!

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In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Valentina, a listener at a crossroads in her relationship and living situation. Valentina shares the challenges of navigating her partner’s sudden decisions and their impact on her sense of self. This episode dives deep into how family-of-origin patterns influence current relationships, and offers profound insights for anyone questioning their life direction.

Christine helps Valentina explore her feelings, confront patterns of compliance and codependency, and move toward clarity and empowerment. Together, they unpack the importance of honoring one’s truth, and voice in relationships and in life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself putting others' needs before your own in relationships?
• Are you afraid to speak your truth, fearing it might lead to conflict or rejection?
• Have you noticed patterns in your relationships that reflect your childhood experiences?
• Are you currently in a situation that feels like a compromise of your authentic self?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Valentina recognizes her tendency to prioritize her partner's desires over her own, a pattern rooted in her upbringing.
• Christine highlights the importance of self-honoring choices and boundary-setting.
• Through coaching, Valentina gains clarity on her relationship's dynamics and how they mirror her family history.
• Valentina finds empowerment in understanding that leaving a relationship or staying should align with her soul’s highest good.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on whether your relationships support or suppress your authentic self.
• Notice patterns from your family of origin that might be playing out in your current relationships.
• Prioritize communication and honesty in relationships to foster mutual respect and understanding.
• Seek external support, whether from therapy or coaching, to help navigate big decisions.

Sponsors:

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!