How Not to Fit In
An Unapologetic Guide to Navigating Autism and ADHD
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About this listen
’The lack of information around how ADHD and autism shows up in adults means that many of us have been assuming we were anxious, not working hard enough, or just entirely failing altogether.’ – Jess Joy and Charlotte Mia
Written by two late-diagnosed neurodivergent women and the founders of fast-growing online community @IAmPayingAttention, HOW NOT TO FIT IN is an handbook-meets-rallying cry.
Foregrounding real experiences with autism and ADHD, this book explores the journey of discovering, accepting and flourishing with your neurodivergent brain. It explores why getting a diagnosis can be so fraught and gendered, and how to navigate a world which centres neurotypical brains in the realms of relationships, careers, friendships and finances.
By reading this book, you’ll:
- Start to understand why so many people are being diagnosed with ADHD and autism right now
- Learn the impact that not knowing your own brain can have on your mental health
- Find the confidence to ask for accommodations and adjustments at work – without apologising
- Have the chance to note down how this journey is evolving for you in chapter-by-chapter workbook sections.
- … and, most importantly, get to know yourself and your needs better.
Featuring the latest research and thinking on neurodivergence, contributions from dozens of experts and the real stories of people just like you, this innovative book – which has been written and designed especially for *spicy* brains – is essential listening for anyone whose brain seems to see the world in a different way.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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- Amazon Customer
- 09-11-24
I love how there are multiple POVs from real lived experiences.
The use of multiple POVs from the co-authors with real lived world experiences helped me to understand my own experiences. Pace is enjoyable and non monotonous. There is plenty of information to help with self-help and recommendations in all areas including work and home life etc.
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- Steve
- 26-02-25
How it’s tough
I learnt so much about myself however one big thing I would say is maybe don’t hold your breath for the world to change to adapt to your or my needs.
Maybe it will one day after it has adapted to every minority since the world began and possibly always will.
I’d say understand yourself then adapt or die, so to speak.
All that said it’s an excellent read, thank you
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- Philippa Jane Richardson
- 14-08-24
A great resource
This is such a great book, however it is more than a book, it is a book that can be used as a workbook & self help guide, if needed.
I think it is exceptional resource for a newly diagnosed adult.
As a woman with a late ADHD and autism diagnosis (50 years +), I have found it very helpful to reflect on the content, especially the chapters that relate to;
*To mask or not to mask
*Grief & burnout
*Relationships & sex
*Health, fitness and nutrition and
*Life admin
The authors discuss the point 'it always looked like I was managing before, but I wasn't, I was masking'. This absolutely resonates with me.
They discuss the importance of 'finding your people', with links in pdfs for signposting to recommendations for social media and further support.
I love the fact the authors discuss 'superpowers' and how this term may not always be helpful.
I have read/listened to this book on Audible, it is thoroughly engaging. Highly recommended.
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- Ms hazel angel aydin
- 21-01-25
how not to fix in
I love it i have ADHD and autism my self it helped me alot
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- Mrs S.
- 08-06-24
Honest
I loved this so much that after listening to the first 2 chapters I bought the book. I mainly started listening to this book to better understand my sons world but after hearing experiences and working through questions and reflecting upon my own life I believe that I too may have a ‘spicy brain’ and whilst I am not in a position to pursue a diagnosis I take comfort knowing that what I have gone throw and continue to experience is normal for me. Thank you!
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- Amelia W.
- 02-05-24
10 out of 10 recommend
Great to hear such an honest open dicussion of the authors own experiences of existing with late diagnosed adhd and autism and what they've learnt from helping others. really enjoyed their Instagram for years and the book is wonderful, supportive and affirming.
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- T Wheeler
- 21-02-25
Awesome will keep listening again and again
One of the best books on autism. Really life changing. Love it! Will share with everyone
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